Once upon a time weddings were all about tradition but lately that seems to be fading, and I actually think it's a great thing! Couples are more and more making their wedding day about them and what they want to do. Gone are the days of having to follow in your parent's footsteps and participate in the wedding formalities of their generation. Don't get me wrong, some brides still find wedding day traditions romantic and sentimental and I think that is so sweet! However, things are definitely shifting in the wedding world. Here a few fading traditions that I often run into to:
Seeing each other for the first time as the bride is walking down the aisle.
This tradition is still holding on the strongest out of all of them I think, but first looks are quickly taking over. This one tradition in particular is one couples have very strong feelings about. They know exactly when and where they want this moment to happen. When I was a bride ten years ago I had never even heard of a first look and I wouldn't have even considered it. As a wedding photographer today, I always try to encourage my clients to have a first look whenever possible. I am never pushy about it and ALWAYS respect their choice because it's their day and not mine. The thing with a first look is that you still have that moment of seeing each other for the first time, but it's in a private setting without all eyes on you. You know how a lot of guys have that thing where they don't want other people to see them cry? When it's just the two of you, you're both more free to really let your feelings roll. Another bonus is that it gives you more time for portraits, which I'm always a fan of ;)
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in your shoe.
I adore this tradition personally, but less and less of my clients are doing it. I think it's just a sweet way to include other family members and heirloom items into your wedding day. Let's be real, though. Wedding days already involve a lot of planning and when it comes time to figure out what your "something blue" is going to be a lot of brides just aren't interested and honestly, I don't blame them.
Matching bridesmaid dresses.
No more matchy matchy, my friends! I still see this sometimes but not very often. A lot of times my clients have their bridesmaids in not only different style dresses, but different color dresses and I LOVE that! It adds such a really fun color dynamic to your wedding day and wedding portraits. If you really want all your girls in the same color, having them in different style dresses is a great way to go. That way each woman can choose a style that she is comfortable in and again, it just adds a really great dynamic to your portraits.
I understand why this is a fading trend but I think this one makes me a little sad. I mentioned in a previous blog post about how this is fading out but it's a big one so I feel like it's worth mentioning again. More and more my clients are opting for dessert bars over traditional wedding cakes. I love photographing weddings cakes so it hurts my heart a little BUT, I get it. Wedding cakes are super expensive and truthfully, they aren't my favorite dessert and I think maybe people agree. Some of my clients still choose a small, single layer cake for them to cut which is a great way to go.
Garter and bouquet tosses.
This one is quickly fading. My clients very rarely do either of these. Sometimes they will still do the bouquet toss but hardly ever the garter. More often than not the whole garter toss process leaves people blushing and a bit embarassed so I find that people are just steering away completely. I don't blame them.
Country Club Receptions.
When I got married EVERYONE planned their receptions at banquet halls at the nearest country club. These days people are definitely getting more creative in their celebration venues and I LOVE it. There's nothing at all wrong with country clubs, though! I find people are choosing farms, orchards, Inns, and even historic gardens and college campuses as their reception venues and I love the creativity and variety it sparks. How fun that you have so many options these days!
At the end of the day, your wedding day is YOURS and you get to choose how you want it to go. Tradition heavy and not at all traditional it will still be an amazing day, perfectly reflective of you as a couple :)